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(G)Local Plan:
The societal issue of not having equal shared parenting, along with the various branches, i.e. custodial interference, child support, divorce, family, etc. is an issue that has been plaguing society for generations. In order to get to the final solution, we, as a people need to come together and work to change peoples’ hearts and minds, which will eventually change the laws.
For all of the great social changes, for good or for bad, once society has adopted a view, laws would then change.
Below is a process with each of these items building upon the earlier objective described in more detail. As each measurable item is completed (and expanded/continued), the next objective becomes attainable as the overall project receives momentum from the previous successes.
Most people are in the matrix and don’t want to be woken up. A lot of those same people PROFIT off the system, so they have no need to change. And lets face it, we live in a narcissistic “all about me” world now.
The message to the masses needs to be put in a way that will “benefit” them. And also, lets face it, people are LAZY and want to be spoon fed. The message needs to be “bottom shelfed” and easy to understand.
For the leaders and disciples of this message, you must be educated on the facts. You must also carry yourself as spotless as ANY negative thing in your life (true or otherwise) will hurt the overall message.
Here are ideas that can be utilized to create awareness:
- Like, share, subscribe to all ESP groups
- Gets the information out to a larger audience
- Your media circle is different from everyone else’s, you can pass on information to people in your circle that no one else could
- When it comes time to push legislators, judges, etc. having a large subscribe base simply makes the job easier 😉
- Get educated on the baseline topics and START conversations with people in real life as well as on social media
- Get involved in your community and your kids’ school. EVERY school has a Watchdog or other parenting program. Join it! Join the PTA, Band, or volunteer to be a room parent.
- If more people in your area do #3, you can create a county map and get people into lead positions.
Texas, for example has 1,031 public, 618 charter, and 1,297 private schools (est. 146,309 of home schooled) in Texas, which seems like a lot (and it is). The best way to keep it (g)local is to break it down into manageable chunks by ISD and then by County. By having a County Lead (there are 254 counties) approach, it keeps the territory fairly even. Here is a quick checklist of things to get it started School Plan
5. Create flyers with relevant data and pass them out. If you need help making one, email admin@pissedoffparent.com, and I can create one
6. Get with local businesses and see if they will support equal shared parenting
7. Host an “Equal Shared Parenting” car wash, car event, golf tournament, gaming night, the list goes on and on
8. Get involved in politics. Go to your (or even opposing side’s) events. Get your name out there as the go to person for all things equal shared parenting
Best way to share is to be there and available for parents and children that have (or are currently going through) these things. Join support groups like the Dad Talk Today Support Group and DAD Surviving Divorce. Be in your local social media chat rooms.
For Parents:
- Encourage them to seek emotional support through therapy or counseling.
- Provide resources for co-parenting and communication strategies.
- Help them navigate legal and financial challenges related to divorce.
- Offer practical support, such as helping with child care or household tasks.
- Encourage them to prioritize their own self-care and well-being.
For Children:
- Offer a safe and supportive environment to express their feelings.
- Help them understand that the divorce is not their fault and that they are still loved.
- Provide age-appropriate information about the divorce and what will happen next.
- Help them maintain routines and stability as much as possible.
- Offer opportunities to spend time with both parents and extended family members.
- Monitor their emotional well-being and seek professional help if needed.
Our family courts are where a lot of this stuff happens. These same courts are incentivized to keep things the way they are, but there are still things you can do. You can join (or even create) a court-watching group (process and data are in the link) in your area that goes to court and “watches” the judge. Crazy enough, most judges become a lot more amenable when a bunch of people are there watching them.
Some of this process, as you’ll notice is built upon earlier steps and each must be completed and working efficiently before this section can be heavily utilized. The big thing here is to get involved in your areas politics. Learn who the movers and shakers are and talk about the issue(s). This is the overall process:
Research: Conduct research on the existing laws related to child custody, visitation, and shared parenting in your jurisdiction. Identify the gaps and areas where the law could be improved to favor equal shared parenting.
Identify allies: Identify potential allies who support the idea of equal shared parenting, such as family law attorneys, judges, mental health professionals, and other advocacy groups.
Form a coalition: Create a coalition of advocates who support equal shared parenting. This coalition can include parents, family law attorneys, mental health professionals, and other interested parties.
Draft a proposal: Draft a proposal outlining the changes you would like to see in the law. This proposal should be clear and concise, and include specific provisions for equal shared parenting.
Lobby legislators: Meet with legislators to discuss the proposal and lobby for changes in the law. Provide research and evidence to support your position.
Mobilize supporters: Mobilize supporters to contact their legislators and advocate for changes in the law. This can include organizing letter-writing campaigns, social media campaigns, and other advocacy efforts.
Testify at hearings: Attend hearings on the proposed changes to the law and testify in support of equal shared parenting. Provide personal stories and other evidence to support your position.
Work with the media: Work with the media to raise awareness about the issue and build public support for equal shared parenting.
Negotiate with opponents: Negotiate with opponents of the proposed changes to the law to address their concerns and reach a compromise that supports equal shared parenting.
Celebrate success: Celebrate any successes along the way, such as legislative victories or changes in public opinion.
Monitor implementation: Monitor the implementation of the new law to ensure that it is being enforced fairly and in accordance with the intent of the law. Work to address any issues that arise in the implementation phase.
Some of this process, again, as you’ll notice is built upon earlier steps and each must be completed and working efficiently before this section can be heavily utilized:
Research: Conduct research on the impact of Title IV-D on families, child support, and the court system. Identify the reasons why you want to end the program.
Identify allies: Identify potential allies who support ending Title IV-D, such as family law attorneys, judges, and other advocacy groups.
Form a coalition: Create a coalition of advocates who support ending Title IV-D. This coalition can include parents, family law attorneys, mental health professionals, and other interested parties.
Develop a proposal: Develop a proposal outlining the reasons for ending Title IV-D and the potential impact on families, child support, and the court system. This proposal should be clear and concise, and include specific provisions for alternative funding and support for child support enforcement.
Lobby legislators: Meet with legislators to discuss the proposal and lobby for changes in the law. Provide research and evidence to support your position.
Mobilize supporters: Mobilize supporters to contact their legislators and advocate for ending Title IV-D. This can include organizing letter-writing campaigns, social media campaigns, and other advocacy efforts.
Testify at hearings: Attend hearings on the proposed changes to the law and testify in support of ending Title IV-D. Provide personal stories and other evidence to support your position.
Work with the media: Work with the media to raise awareness about the issue and build public support for ending Title IV-D.
Negotiate with opponents: Negotiate with opponents of ending Title IV-D to address their concerns and reach a compromise that supports alternative funding and support for child support enforcement.
Celebrate success: Celebrate any successes along the way, such as legislative victories or changes in public opinion.
Monitor implementation: Monitor the implementation of the new law to ensure that alternative funding and support for child support enforcement is sufficient and effective. Work to address any issues that arise in the implementation phase.
You have to understand, however, that the Family Court system has been in place for DECADES….it is well funded and a lot of work has been done to keep this process in place. No single person is going to change ANY of this…only by working together to change minds and apply pressure will any of this change.
