Came across this old video from my previous life 5+ years ago, when I was in the “frustration” phase of figuring out my ex-wife was a nutjob. While I will be writing more on this topic later, watching this video made me remember what my and the boy’s lives were like living with that cancerous cockroach.
The house that I owned was 2,500 sq ft and she was a “SAHM” while I worked, took care of the kids, cooked, cleaned, etc. (from my research, this is common for men). As my confusion over everything continued to turn to frustration, I was talking with my hetero-lifemate “Parker” about it, trying to make sense. I couldn’t understand why when I would clean a room or the house, within hours (sometimes minutes) she would come along and mess it up. We concluded that, amongst other things, she was a hoarder.
With the benefit of time, I’ve learned that it wasn’t “my fault”. Over the years, the boys have expressed THEIR frustration in that her rental house is EVEN messier (if that’s possible). The oldest REFUSES to go over there (course, its not JUST the nastiness of the house) and the youngest keeps asking when he can live with us full time, but a post for another day.
In contrast, my home has order (and I am sensitive to any type of messiness):